The Secret to Rediscovering Pleasure After Menopause
Many women are told to “put duties first, then pleasures.” But this old belief often leaves us disconnected from our own needs and intimacy. After menopause, changes in the body can make sex feel different, but that doesn’t mean pleasure has to disappear. In fact, this is the perfect moment to explore what intimacy can look like for you.
As a certified sex coach for women in Brussels, I’ve seen how powerful it can be when women give themselves permission to reconnect with their desires.
The Secret
The secret? Slowing down enough to notice what truly feels good. Whether it’s the touch of warm water in the shower, the smell of lavender, or the feeling of soft fabric on your skin, these small pleasures are the building blocks of sexual confidence and intimacy.
Step 1: Notice the Everyday Pleasures
Like novelist Vita Sackville-West, who delighted in kicking leaves or pulling curtains, we can train ourselves to savour tiny joys. This isn’t frivolous, it’s practice for intimacy. Think of it as the first step in body confidence coaching.
Step 2: Ask Better Questions
Instead of “What should I want?” ask:
What do I actually like?
How can I enjoy intimacy without guilt?
Is low libido normal at 50? (Yes, and you’re not alone.)
Exploring these questions in a safe space, like one-on-one sex coaching or intimacy coaching services, helps break old patterns.
Step 3: Create Space for Exploration
Whether you’re facing low libido, painful sex, or just boredom in the bedroom, experimenting at your own pace is key. Try asking yourself:
Do I prefer gentle touch, or something firmer?
Morning intimacy, or evening?
How can I feel sexy again after menopause?
Step 4: Explore Intimacy Safely
A discreet sex coaching space is designed for you to explore without pressure, shame, or expectations. Together, we can work on:
How to talk about sex after 40
How to reconnect with my body as a woman
What mindful sexuality coaching looks like in practice
Your pleasure matters at every age. Rediscovering intimacy after menopause isn’t about performing for someone else, but about living in harmony with your own body.
If you’re ready to explore, feel free to get in touch with me, or simply start by noticing the little moments of joy in your day. The path back to sexual empowerment begins with slowing down, and it’s one worth taking.
